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The workshop is self-contained; no pre-reading is required. Do I have to talk in this class? Absolutely not. Although the leaders will ask questions of the audience and encourage participation, speaking up is entirely up to you! If you just want to sit back, learn, and participate in the private exercises with your partner, you are welcome to do so. Peggy Braam is a licensed professional counselor with 20 years of clinical experience.
Peggy has a private psychotherapy practice on the west side of Madison. Rebecca Compton is a licensed professional counselor, a national certified counselor, a certified group psychotherapist, and a board certified coach. She has had the privilege of guiding therapy clients for over 30 years. In these situations, couples counseling or individual counseling would be more appropriate. By registering for any event through National Marriage Seminars, Inc. This is a non-hosted or sponsored National Marriage Seminars training. We also believe in creating a learning environment that respects the diversity our attendees bring to these events.
Tired of having the same fight over and over? Then, this two-day workshop is for you! Gloria Jean Bannasch is a licensed professional, and nationally certified, counselor. That happens much faster than you think! YOU can fix your marriage. When couples, or individuals, begin studying our marriage program you would be amazed at the positive feedback we get …right away!
It is like skiing. When I was a kid I was lucky to live where our ski runs were pathetic. Otherwise, I would have killed myself. Later in life, I took a couple of lessons and I was no longer putting my life on the line. Marriage fixing should indeed be as a do-it-yourself project.
But use a manual or course so you know what does what. Then, you will see. Your lives will be so much better! Reinventing yourself is not the same as fixing someone who is broken. What it meant is that you who are now in your marriage are probably not you who were adored when you got engaged. Contrary to what many people think, marriage is not merely a simple relationship that you enter from engagement, after dating.
Marriage is a whole new world! It is as different as can be, and it needs special thinking and actions in order to get out of it what you wish. People bring into their marriages the same skills they use in the rest of the world, and discover their marriages are not anything like what they wanted. Not filled with joy, not very harmonious, and certainly not blissful. I flapped my arms with all my might and speed, and jumped of our porch nearly broke my ankles , and still no flight!
But when I was 18, I went to flight school and learned all I needed to fly. Once I learned, it was easy! Your marriage is a complex entity of at least six different relationships, all with their own rules. Your broken marriage will continue to break until you, sometimes just one of you, takes your marriage seriously enough to put the time into reinventing your approach to your spouse, the marriage, and yourself.
So, all of this has to be learned. Otherwise, you will be flapping your arms in very creative ways, but will never get off the ground. In fact you will end up going deeper into your broken marriage, as the marriage counselors rarely are well trained. Marriages need a very different approach than what is popularly thought. There is a process I came up with to heal your marriage that will work, and it works because it is so obvious it is working as soon as you begin, and then you start to get excited by the prospects; it is hard to beat success and logic.
I never thought of doing that before. Honestly, there is so much nonsense out there that people who begin our program are amazed at how quickly things change. But the best part is that the changes are permanent. I came up with all our programs because I was a divorce mediator who shifted gears when I saw how many families were collapsing simply because good people had no idea how to be married. So I created it myself.
That means it does what it is suppose to do. Imagine that! Some couples who use our guidance begin with only the wife, or less often, the husband, taking the program. In these cases we hope the other will see big changes and eventually join in. That is usually how it works when marriages turn around. But even if not, the one who takes the program is not pulling the whole marriage, but rather setting the example. You inevitably reinvent yourself. Then, when you know how to be married, you have a great marriage. Books like that are fine for entertainment. Right from when I first began helping couples my process worked incredibly well; it is scientific.
Some said it was because I was honest with people, but it is much more than that. I took people through a succinct process. Later, I wrote out the process in my first book So many have been helped because I laid out my process, which in that book is very easy to follow. A few years later, I wrote a second book for teaching therapists about our system. It contains the same information, but it goes much deeper into the reasons for why we behave we do and what we can do about it. Her husband had been on that crazy Ashley Madison site, and was dating young women.
She was panicked! They had two little children and she had no idea what to do. They are still together, and doing superbly. Though he never went on our program too, he did read the book. To sum up, reinventing yourself according to what your marriage needs takes more than a resolution, or changing one or two things. It requires definite and scientific effort.
One thought to keep in mind is although some people think a divorce will put an end to the suffering, and the next marriage will be better; or better to live alone, it is rarely true. But they do not realize how much harder it is to live with their imperfections than it is to fix them, thus saving their marriage.
There is always hope until you quit. Best to take the next step. Get busy learning about marriage and make up your mind to get it right. You can do it. Russell Losing a child is a huge deal, especially for mom. If you can change some things with that as a guide, great. Otherwise you may want to get the course for men.
But by all means be a lot more patient with your wife. She needs your love and support, not your instruction. And so do your grandchildren… you can contact our counselors, too. When my husband gets mad and says ugly words to me and he never admits his wrong doings only mine.
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It is best to consider this so you do not create even more anger. If you are an angel you will be understanding, even though he is wrong. My husband refuses to communicate with me. Everything is always his way or no way. We have been married for over 18yrs.
Kids are grown and out of the house. Lately he has been cranky and distant. But to him everything is fine as long as I leave him alone. When I do try to talk to him about things that I am feeling he shuts down gets highly irritated and defensive. He sits in his chair for hours at a time. Watching television while I pour my heart out to him. He will get up and go to bed without a word spoken. He is a rock. The question is. Do I continue to beat my head on this rock?
Please help. No need to bang your head… I just loaded a new video which explains how I address marriage in our course. Why not take a look? I been married 11yrs and we been together for 14 years altogether. Recent I was calling and texting another lady never tried to sleep with her nor did I say something out the norm just being a friend.
My wife found out she asked me who it was I lied about the name, and I also deleted the text message. But I recovered the messages and showed them to her. She wants a divorce. Its so good that you are not just letting your marriage slip into oblivion. We have 4 children and my husband is giving up on our marriage. He thinks that is the only way to fix this. Dear Vanessa Your situation is very tough because you have been apart so long.
If he is in the home you do have an opportunity to reconnect.
But its like starting from scratch. I would recommend you see this as an opportunity. Perhaps you can win his love. My husband has cheated many times and is an addict. We have children and I cant give up. He is sick and want my marriage to work.
I filed for divorce but stopped it in hopes for change and a couple months later I moved out but we are still trying. We used to fight all the time. We talk more now. However, he says this is all alot because he is moving back in but wont explain what alot is. I am trying to stay positive and be there when he is ready to talk and not be pushy. He wants to hang out with friends by himself alot and i dont feel like that is a good idea.
I think we should be spending time together to figure this out and fix our marriage. Is it to late? If he is addicted to substance, whether its drugs legit or not or alcohol, his heart is closed off AND the substances cause a cycle of degeneration that cannot be stopped until the addicted one has hit their bottom, and stops… it happens all the time. If you are saying he is addicted to his habits, that is not the same.
He can be helped by you being more loving and connected yourself. My name is Breanna. My husband and I have been married 4 years now. I just caught him paying prostitues for sex in crack motels. I have caught him cheating endless times and have even left him an gotten my own home. Only to have him crying for me back doing all the right things making me believe he has changed and BAM! I catch him again. We are together all the time and have what I thought an amazing relationship.
My therapist believes from the things I have told and showed her that he has a sex addiction problem. This time I found videos, emails, hotel receipts, text messages, everything. Yet he still denies black and white proof to my face as If i am stupid. So why apologize if he is saying he did not do it?
I am tired of feeling as if I am the problem when I clearly am not. I feel I can never compete with someone with a sex addiction problem. We have sex literally almost everyday, yet he still cheats. What can I do? Is this fixable? Should I run and never look back? I am at my whits end. You are going through Hell! The problem is not in the details, or you having sex with him, or him being addicted to sex. You cannot be addicted to sex, just be habituated, which is NOT the same thing.
The REAL problem, as there is only one, is that the two of you have no idea how to be married. What you must do now is study marriage, how your mind works, and all the other aspects of marriage so you can make it happen. Have you at least gotten one of my books? But what you really need is the course… write to our counselors for more direction, but no, you should not give up.
I left my husband almost 3 years ago because of his affair with his assistant. He tried to everything to win me back and promised that he already stopped. We had 2 children one is 11 yrs now and the other one is 4 years. I accepted him. And now after almost 3 years being happy together i saw a picture of him and the other woman along with a 7mos.
Its her baptismal and my husband was there seems very happy in the pictures. He even denies a communication with the other woman despite in the picture shes hugging and holding him…i see from my husband face how happy he is and how comfortable he is with her and her family. Now im in so much depression and i dont know what to do. Even my kids are affected. I wanted to run away everytime and lea ve him so that they can both be happy. I dont know what to do now he says he will never leave us whatever happened and he loves me….
I hope u can help me. Im so tired and everything is a mess right now. Please help me. Dear Scott I pray its not too late. Go to this video I put together, so you know what you are getting into. I just found this link. Everything you wrote is so true. Our first reactions are leave, get out, so what, etc. He always says no to spending time together, but when he wants to do something he expects yes. It is very hurtful that we should be doing more.
I am harsh with words just like him. I want my marriage and this failure did not happen overnight. I want to see where I need correction, and truly understand what marriage is about. My children have grown up witnessing dysfunction. But it IS within your power to heal everything. If your marriage is far gone you will need the help provided by the course we put together for you, which I explain in this video.
Otherwise, use one of my books to get educated. But be careful. If you are in serious trouble and try to patch things you will make it worse. Unfortunately after almost 22 years of marriage and raising our children, me surviving a massive stroke, going through many financial ups and downs I am afraid my husband and I have just grown too far apart.
There is no resolution since communication is so dysfunctional. I have shut down to avoid the fights. Dear Jenny I know it may seem like that now, but it all has to do with perspective and insights. You both have so much invested, and are so young. You can have an amazing life starting now. Put all your energy into making your marriage the happiest part of your life. I have seen it and know what we share will work for you, too.
Paul,I just want to say thank you for posting these comments. They have given me confidence, insight, reassurance and HOPE. I have been married for just over 22 years and we are in the process of divorce.
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I am a very affectionate person and have hardly ever been able to receive the same affection from him. Dear TM Absolutely there is hope, even at this stage where your husband is moving in with his girlfriend. But you cannot expect him to respond to the you he is leaving.
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So many make the same mistake of applying all kinds of excuses, resentment, and their own sense of righteous indignation, when they should start working on themselves with the true idea that they were quite imperfect as a wife. Get busy! I have laid out the path and process in minute detail in the the course.
All you have to do is follow it sincerely. Hi Paul, We have been married for over 30 years and now the marriage is on the rocks to say the least. My wife keeps saying it is over and finished and insisting that she does not want to try to fix it anymore. Is there anything that can be done to save the marriage when she is insisting that it is over!
Of course the reasons are scientific, but that does not matter to you at the moment. You may look at your behaviors, to see what is driving the wedge. I would suggest getting one of my books so you have a comparison. Maybe its not too late…. Paul, My husband and I have been married for 2 years now.