Dinners prepped over the stove. Times of laughter over silly things. Hair brushed and pulled back into pony tails. Prayers over wandering teens. Prayers over little babes. Nights spent sleeping in a chair holding a sick child. I say those things are enough. There is no supermom, really — that whole supermom who has everything together is just a fallacy. There are real moms. Scared and tired moms who keep fighting.
Moms who are overwhelmed by keeping up with littles all day long. Moms like you and me who sometimes feel lost in a world of outward accomplishments. A mother is the person, the woman, just like you. Images and original content are sole property of Rachel Martin and may not be used, copied or transmitted without prior written consent. And I say, thank you again for your words. They arrive in front of me just in the moment that I need to hear it the most. I am enough. Thanks for being my encouraging cheerleader.
I commend you. You have the most important job ever, be proud because your legacy will follow you in your children. If you teach them right from wrong, go to church with them, teach them about Jesus and his love. These are the most import things you will ever do. Be an example of love for your husband, love for the3 children and No frightening. Children learn and repeat what they see in their homes, so Moms and Dads, your children are watching you and learning.
I was not fortunate to stay home with my sons, but I pray I thought them love, respect and was a godly example for them. I know my Mama and Daddy were. Thank you Mama and Daddy. I try to be mindful of the little things in life.
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Beautifully written, as always. Praying for some direction, something to keep me going… and there it popped up in my email — your blog. I once again applaud you for your words that touch the lives of those who need it most. Thank you thank you thank you for the reminder and encouragement. Dear Michelle…. One Mom on this blog says her four children turned out pretty great, but she wishes she had spent more time with them. And they are you wealth…worth far more than all the diamonds on this earth. Blessings upon you and your children!
Thanks for the wonderful reminder to hang in there. These years with our children are fleeting and I have to remind myself of that often so I really enjoy these moments. I have enjoyed my children from day one, with and without money.
There are great mothers, poor and rich, and horrible mothers poor and rich. Thank you Natalie! Your post brought tears to my eyes. And I knew just what you meant about wealth. We have had to slash our budget for me to stay home, and with three kids under five, I am exhausted and barely have time to take a shower. You were speaking to moms like me who feel the pressure to be thin and fashionable, who are struggling to stay in budget and who maybe lose focus about what really matters when we see the moms who appear to have it all.
Your words were just what I needed today. Thank you. For those of you who read this and it helped right when you needed to hear it, thank God for working through this sensitive, caring and thoughtful author. He works in many wonderful ways. As always, your words speak right to my soul, right where I need to hear them most. It has been one of those days of attempting to juggle work and kids and more, but your words remind me of what really matters.
This was simply wonderful and exactly what I needed to hear!
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Saw this posted from mamalode. Loved it loved it. Thank you! That I am not alone in this. This is what I needed to hear. I had this thought just the other day, holding my grandson at the riverbank. And his wet shivery little body reminded of holding his mommy when she was wet out of the swimming pool at his same age.
Thanks for reminding us all that it is those moments, not the things, not the places, but the being present. As I stopped to check my phone as it was beeping from a text with your like in it, I was in the middle of resorting toys into their proper bins, doing dinner dishes yes, three hours after sinner they were still on the table switching laundry. All while the rest of the house is sound asleep.
No one knows how the house is miraculously clean in the morning, they just know I am there to love on them, fix them sippy cups, brade hair for dance class and make one more pbj. Thank you for reminding me that it is ok to just play with them and enjoy the process of making memories and being enough!waitheardiodiska.tk/map10.php
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Never, ever wanted to be anything besides a wife and mother. The Lord has blessed me so greatly! Praying right now! My email address. Thank you so much for sharing this post! You are an amazing mom and you are truly inspiring. Your encouragement really had a very good impact. Thank you for your words. You have no idea how wonderful it was to read this. So thank you for showing me that there are other moms out there like me. Sweetie, you are doing MORE than enough. You are giving them the gift of free time. Unscheduled time where their minds can be creative. They can find shapes in clouds.
They can discover rocks and worms. Keep it up. Never doubt yourself! You are a great mommy! Love your beautiful words. Admit I got a lump in my throat as I related to most of it. Thank you… just what I needed today and I will enjoy this day of motherhood because of your thoughts.
Keep being you, because you are a gift to others just the way you are…. This is amazing. It made me cry but in a good way. This is me every day and these are words of encouragement that I need. Loving your blog its exactly what I have been looking for. Having recently had my second baby I have suddenly had a revelation about every day life and the special things that make up a day. New to blogging also please check out my blog have no idea what im doing but enjoying it.
I wish I heard some of those encouraging words while I was bringing my four kids up. They turned out pretty great but I wish I would have taken more time to just spend time with them. Thank you for this post as I spent most of the day recovering from falling apart last night due to grieving over the child I lost in the wintertime. My due date is coming up and I just had to sit and cry about it—the loss and the grief, but also the joy in the three children I do have and what would I be without them?
Because without them, there would be such emptiness, still, in my heart and my life for both my husband and I. Your blog is wonderful and your words are a salve. So, thank you again. Knowing that their spirit never really dies. I pray for strength for you. I wish I had been made more aware of the things that you write about. I did love and enjoy a lot of small simple things when my children were very young but failed when they were teenagers.
I will do my best with my grown children and my grandchildren. Thanks for your blog. My mother asked me yesterday if I ask myself what I want instead of what I need. End of story. Everything else comes second. Thank you for this wonderful wonderful article. Just enlighten my day and encouraged me to go on with my imperfections.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It hits very close to home right now as I am currently battling some health issues that have left me short of patience with my three toddlers ages 6,5 and 3. I think, of all people I should be over the moon every day, as I know what it is like to burry a child. I should feel more grateful. Yet, at the end of the day when they are in bed and I have a moment to enjoy the quiet…I know they are my world.
Though I have to admit with battling my own health issues, I quite often feel lost as a mother. I read this post and while tears stung my eyes, it was a wonderful reminder about the importance of the small things and that this too will pass. Thank you so much for sharing! Thank you for writing this. No one in my real life says these things to me, ever. This is so beautiful, so wise and wonderful. Thank you for writing it. You are right — it is more than enough. Life can be overwhelming at times, but the victory is ours through Christ! Put your trust in Him!
O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
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Love this moments reading this article. I did have moments doubting myself if I did enough for them. Thank you for making me realize it. Thank you for this. Having a really rough day and not feeling the much-needed support from my husband. This makes me feel so much better. Thank you for these beautiful words. From a mother who is doing it all over again, raising my young granddaughter, I often doubt myself and this made me feel so much better and I can really relate.
Thank you again. Can you take a look at my post? The words went straight to my heart and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for reminding me that I am enough and that what I am doing, no matter how insignificant it may seem, is making a difference for my son. I wish I could be a mom…not all of us are so lucky. I found your blog through a friend today.
I would love to be able to write like you do but that is why people like you have such talent…to speak for the rest of us. People looked at me like I had two heads because my husband and I chose to live on one income and make motherhood the fulltime job it is. Reading aloud all evening while the children lay on couches eating popcorn or spending summer afternoons at the village pool are memories we still share even as their children head for adulthood. Young mothers today need you to not only validate their choices but to encourage them to appreciate those choices. Wow, Cathy…beautifully said!!
I dare say, you must print this out and hang it on the fridge alongside your kids stuff! Lifting up prayers to the Only One who can hear! The angel of the LORD encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. Women are so hard on each other and themselves. No, but they snacked healthfully all day on which eventually contained all the four food-groups and ingested enough water to keep them hydrated. What did the imaginary people on the sidelines say to that? We prayed. I prayed for rest. I had a little wine. Yep, I like it.
Both my kids, and husband for that matter are tucked into bed, as are the dogs. Everyone is peaceful and sleeping and I feel good. Just live and feel good about it. I do try to keep up on NY days off.
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I am not a mom yet, but I am a stay at home young wife. Struggling with with feeling insignificant. This article helped me a little. Love, love, love. Thank you Rachel. Blessings and keep up the good work both in motherhood and in your fabulous writing! I just love this post! There he lay in my arms inhaling, exhaling, heart beating in tune with mine.. And it hit me.. How much time do I spend IN their room and not just passing through putting up laundry and picking up legos?
Your words are priceless, so important for moms to hear. FOr years I struggled against family thinking that this, this mothering, could not possibly be enough. Oh, but it was. This is beautiful! Thank you for this amazing gentle reminder of what it truly important. When I think of my Mother and what I loved about my childhood it is always about her. Simply being there for us and loving us. This is what I hope my son remembers of his childhood. Not how many play dates he had. I miss my 17 year old daughter. Or worse still, Mum, i will see you in a little while and many hours later, i may have been lucky enough to set eyes on her.
Just being together and feeling the love was enough. Keeping out of the graveyard today is hard and just being there for all that life throws at you — in my eyes makes one the best mom in the world. This is beautiful, beautiful truth. Need to remember this. This brought me to tears. Incredibly moving and humbling. Thanks for sharing. And yes, there are dishes in my sink too! And two baskets of unfolded laundry! Just what I needed to hear. Sometimes we mamas try to do it all and sacrifice that time with our children. This post is reminding me to sit down and hold my 3yo as much as possible, because that time will be gone before I know it.
Thank you for yet another excuse to sit in front of my computer and just let tears fall. I am currently the breadwinner for my family and wish I could be the stay-at-home mom. Karlberg Fam…. Get a grip and know this wil be over WAY too soon! And I guarantee all of you who are moaning and groaning now will regret it.
You will wish with all your heart that you could do it all over again and behave as a true Mother would. I think you just like pity and attention!! Did you think Motherhood was going to be as on your soap operas? Plain and simple. This whining and moaning has got to stop!! Hi Rachel, I just stumbled across this post on FB when a friend posted it. I reposted on FB but would love your permission to repost on my blog: embeecroft.
Our society sometimes chooses to view us all as religious whack jobs, not realizing that some of the kids who would otherwise be put on drugs in order to stay in school COULD come home and learn successfully in a healthy environment. This post should be etched into a bronze plaque and fixed to every public building in the world! Being a mom is enough. In fact, it is more than enough. The rewards are many. God puts your words before me and I am renewed. God bless you from a mom that is more than enough!!
Who am I kidding? This is the single most important job anyone ever has. Thank you so much for posting this. Thank you for reminding me. Thank you for being used by Him. I was blessed to be able to stay home with my son. Aw, this is really sweet. I read it after a long day with a sick baby.
Thanks for the reminder that my best is enough. My daughter sent this to me for a birthday message. I have been truly blessed with two beautiful daughters who have come into their own adult lives ten-fold. God is Good and I am the fortunate ones to witness transformations of sweet babies to testing the teen years, now to precious beautiful young women inside and out. They see the beauty in giving and tolerance, learning lessons daily as their mom continues to do. Thank you for this blog. Well, that certainly is unacceptable.
You have got to get the help you need to end that cycle! You ARE a good mother. Maybe a divorce would shut him up. Put an end to it NOW. We CAN survive without being abused…verbally or physically. Btw, the verbal abuse usually always starts first and escalates to physical abuse.
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Just wow. I had a probably hormone infused argument with my poor husband… But thank you for your opinion on verbal abuse; divorce and the proper upbringing of my children. May I just say…. I hope your day brings you peace… It very much seems your thoughts and soul need it. I will no longer engage in a conversation with you. And I still very much appreciate this article.
My apologies. This page should never be a page of comments that are meant to cut down or make assumptions of others or any of that. Well said…my daughter sent me this….. I hope she always remembers your words, for they are truly beautiful and perfect. Enough…thank you for the reminder, the little things the little moments, they matter.
So true! So beautifully written, when my son was a baby I remember reading an article which said something to the effect of; new parents should put down the video camera and really absorb the moment….. The article used as an example how when you are rocking your baby you should make a conscious effort to feel his weight in your arms, listen to the sound he makes, breathe deeply the smell of his hair….. Reading that article was a gift that I am so thankful for.
I have videotapes of my boys but its never been of the big stuff….. So put down the phone, put the girls night out on hold and enjoy your children….. As a step-father of three and one of my own. I am amazed by my wife everyday. Her job is a hundred times more exhaustive than mine ever is, even on a hard day. I hope there is a father out there who reads this and when they get home from work, kisses their wife, gives her a big hug and tells her to take a break.
Go to a coffee shop, go for a walk around the lake… anything they want to do. How can you ask someone to work 7 days a week, hours a day without a break? Your wife is SO very fortunate to have you. Thank you…. And it is this very reason why I am…. Part of my job description is not here where I can hold her and tell her goodnight every night. This brought tears to my eyes. I work hard at being a mom and wife and nothing else. Reading this was beautiful and eye opening! I am a 75 yr old greatgrandmother.
I had one year of college. But my greatest accomplishment is my three beautiful children who are all college educated and have great families. My husband was in the military and many days it was all up to me. On two different tour he as gone for one full year. There was no extended family nearby the relieve me of a 24 hr. I feel that I did my job well and have lots to be proud of.
You do not have to have a college degree or a great job to feel successful. Raising children you are proud of is a great accomplishment in itself. What about DADS?? More and more women are abandoning their kids and going to party — thanks, feminist movement! All my friends are dads who stepped up and trying to be mom and dad for our kids cause women are out cheating and partying.. Its really a shame how women like you want to blame the Feminist movement for those abandoning their children.
What excuse do men have for being dead beat dads?? All of you want to say how being a wife and mom are enough well how about SINGLE moms who cannot just sit around and feed off their husbands money?? What happens if your husband decides to leave you and your children?? What are you going to do then?
Move back home with your parents and wait for another man to pick up the slack?? Wake up ladies! Think worse case scenario. Yes, yes, and yes! This can never be said too many times. This is your prize. Beautifully written from your heart. I wish I could go back to my mommy days and change a few things.
I am a grand-mom now. My daughters are in their 20s. I was at the beach with a house full of their friends — special friends from childhood and we were talking about their childhood. What did they remember the most? They remembered the silly song I sang as I put on their sun-tan lotion and the rhyming prayer I had made up and said to them all when they slept at my house.
The simple things. That is what they remember, what I remember, the simple times when we shared life. Yes, I agree looking back, being a mom is enough. It is all that matters. It is that simple daily love and caring that spreads the love and life over generations since Eve. It is good, essential, wondrous even though oh, so hard at times.
Looking back, worth it. Hang in there moms! As an anonymous commenter pointed out, the one filling the role of mom is sometimes a man, in my case a step-grandfather of four, beginning with the oldest 10 years ago, then the others when they were ages 1 through 3. The demands of the role of mom are high, the pay is awful, the hours are long and inconvenient but even with these and all the other challenges the ancillary benefits make it all worthwhile. My mom married my dad who was a widower with 5 kids. Soon she had a baby girl of her own. I am keeping things simple and focusing on family—not outdoing other friends who came before me.
The memories are what will matter to me, not the size of the cake or the amount of decorations. Thank you!! Thank you for posting this. This was just beautiful to read and appreciate. Mothering is constant, unseen and a lot of hard work but there are so many beautiful and inspiring moments throughout the day that get us through!
Or, maybe tickle her every time she asks me too. I am simply humbled and blessed by all of your comments. They are all so encouraging, but more than that, they are a celebration of motherhood. Grateful to stand with all of you moms And dads in this parenting journey. I saw this linked up on Facebook last night and it was exactly what I needed to hear. People should care about little important things that forms a new person. Little details. Big work. OMG…thank you! This is so amazingly well put.
I felt every part of what you said to the heart. I constantly have that guilt in the back of my mind that I wish I could be there for them more. But at the same time, after reading your post, I am doing that. I do do alot, and I know they appreciate everything I do. I think we moms spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to others instead of realizing what you are doing is so important. We are laying the foundation that our children will take with them for the rest of their lives! Thank you for acknowledging a real mom. We need to take a step back and truly enjoy our Blessings.
So what about the laundry. So what about the dishes. You name it, I worry about it: kidnappers, choking, knocking out a tooth, ingesting batteries, the list goes on. In the middle of the night when I lie awake in bed obsessing over the terrible things that could befall my children, letting go and letting God gives me peace and security that everything is going to be OK.
Tantrums are an increasingly common occurrence in our household as my daughter approaches the terrible twos. The terrible twos, by the way, I consider a real misnomer considering this behavior began long before age two. It helps me to be confident in my parenting abilities, and to trust God is watching over us, guiding me to be the best mother I can be. Tantrums take patience, but they are not defining moments in life.
When my daughter was nine-months-old, she woke up from her afternoon nap with a degree fever. As a first-time mother, I felt panicky from the moment I read the thermometer. When I finally got in touch with the pediatrician, she recommended administering Tylenol and waiting it out to see if the fever decreased. Instead of going down, the fever kept creeping up. At degrees, I was frantic. My tiny daughter, all twelve pounds of her, was visibly uncomfortable. She melted into my arms as I dialed the on-call pediatrician again.
After a host of questions about her symptoms, she said it was most likely a virus. Instead of rushing to the ER and waiting for hours, the best thing to do was to keep her fever down as best we could, and take her to see the doctor in the morning. My normally rambunctious baby clung to my chest. My husband ran to the bathroom every few minutes for fresh cold washcloths to put on her forehead while waiting for the Tylenol to kick in.
But, it is true. And considering that my kids are 14, 12 and 7 it is safe to say I have always had kids underfoot while working at home. If you have considered working at home, or if you are just getting started working at home I have good news. Working at home with young kids CAN be done! Now, I am going to talk about working from home here, but many of these tips will also help the mom who works outside the home. I know this is not ideal for most of us. But, it is a legitimate way to survive working while homeschooling. Try getting up 30 minutes earlier each day. That is a good chunk of time!
This also frees up more time during the day to enjoy your kids, go outside, or relax by the pool. When I first began my in home daycare business I did not have work hours. This meant that I often times had kids here from 6 am until bed time. Needless to say, I burnt out quickly. When I began freelancing I found myself making the same mistake. Again, I burnt out very quickly. The key to both of these jobs was setting work hours. If you have set work hours clients know when they can get a hold of you and when you are available to work. When you have young kids at home, setting work hours is a HUGE help.
You know when your kids nap, when they are at school or need to be doing school, you know when their appointments are, and when they play sports. So, you know when you are available to work. Having a set schedule also means that my kids know when I am working. For me, I work every morning from 6 am until 8 am, and then I have additional hours available throughout the week. Once you have set work hours, what do you want to be doing during them?
For awhile you may not have clients, this does NOT Mean you do something else during those work hours. Look for clients, take a class, find a way to build your business during this time. Set a work schedule and stick to it. If you already have clients you can break down your work hours into the tasks you need to accomplish each week. You can see clearly what my work hours are. You can see what I need to do each day.
At a quick glance, I know what my work week entails. Use this Weekly Work Schedule Template to make one for yourself. Creating a work schedule keeps me on task, I know what I need to do, and when I need to do it. This is crucial when you are a mom with young kids because we are SO busy!
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Having a schedule allows us to see in front of us, what we need to be doing, and mindless browsing is NOT on that list! When you work from home others may not realize you really are busy. Yes, this is sad, but true. SO, the biggest tip for working at home while homeschooling is to say NO! Because you are running a business. You have a job.